“Emotionally unavailable” is not a gender term. Both men and women can be emotionally unavailable. Sadly, more and more people are following this latest trend of being emotionally unreachable.
I do not know if it’s out of fear of being hurt or because of the attitude “I will not be tied to anyone”.
These people do not seem to open to anyone, and they certainly do not want to make a commitment. As soon as they see that the things between the two of them have become serious, they will break away from the relationship with all sorts of excuses.
To prevent you from going out with an emotionally unavailable man, read on and find some of the signs that tell you if he’s unavailable or not.
1. He always finds excuses
He always has an excuse for everything. If you ask him, he will politely refuse you. You will not even know if he is uninterested or just shy and uncomfortable. That’s the catch. His excuses are ambiguous.
He can even say that the timing is bad and that it’s not a good time for him to make an appointment now and that shit. Fuck it all! If he really cares about you, he would not question his decision to spend time with you. He would fly to you if he could-if he really liked you.
2. He never makes concrete plans
We all have our own lives and can not really guarantee that we will be in one place at a certain time because a lot of stuff can appear at the last minute. But this guy always tells you at the last minute and he can never say for sure that he will meet you. Again, he is very ambiguous. You do not know where you stand with him.
If he behaves like that now, make sure he keeps acting that way when you both start a relationship – be smart and DO NOT!
3. You meet under his conditions
He is there when he feels like it. It can happen that he suddenly turns up with you-quite emotionally-ready to talk about his feelings. But guess what?
This shows you that he cares about needs, but only for his own needs. He is not there for you when you need to talk and when you are sad. In your plight, he apologizes, but when a fire is burning in his backyard, he’s the first one to seek help to extinguish it.
4. He sends you mixed signals
He makes a strong first impression and then he disappears.
In a moment he hangs on you. You are the best thing that has happened to him. He promises you everything you can imagine. And you-stupid enough-believe him.
The next moment he is nowhere to be seen. You can not reach him on his cell phone; he does not call you. You do not know if he lives or not. He seems to have been swallowed up by the earth.
If his feelings are inconsistent with you, write him off and continue your search for someone who really deserves you
5. He does not want to miss your relationship with a label
You’ve asked him a thousand times which phase you’re both in, but you’ve never got a complete answer. He avoids telling you what he thinks and wants. That’s a huge alarm bell!
Do not let him keep you warm, because if a certain amount of time has passed (say 4-6 months) and you still do not know where you are, believe me, then nothing will change. He does not want to define your relationship because he wants you to be as long as he likes.
Ladies, do not waste your time with such people.
Sometimes it’s hard to resist an ambiguous “bad boy,” but nothing good will come of that.
Keep going because you deserve better!